Index: src/services/ActivityPubService.js
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--- src/services/ActivityPubService.js	(revision 31288dcbb27f353ad78d4fa8c0e0b21f9b50bb50)
+++ src/services/ActivityPubService.js	(revision bfa3ba3ce26883066a0df7053c97b2067ddaa1e6)
@@ -34,10 +34,10 @@
 import {
   safeFetch, getOrCreateKeys, deliver, fetchActor,
-  enqueueDelivery, deliverWithRetry, processDeliveryQueue, startDeliveryWorker,
+  enqueueDelivery, deliverWithRetry, deliverNowOrQueue, processDeliveryQueue, startDeliveryWorker,
   anySigningSlug, verifyRequest, signedGetHeaders, signedGetJson, apGetJson,
 } from './ap-transport.js';
 export {
   safeFetch, getOrCreateKeys, deliver, fetchActor,
-  enqueueDelivery, deliverWithRetry, processDeliveryQueue, startDeliveryWorker,
+  enqueueDelivery, deliverWithRetry, deliverNowOrQueue, processDeliveryQueue, startDeliveryWorker,
   verifyRequest, signedGetHeaders, signedGetJson,
 };
@@ -2416,8 +2416,7 @@
   let delivered = 0;
   for (const inbox of [...inboxes].filter(Boolean)) {
-    let ok = false;
-    try { const st = await deliver(inbox, create, keyId, keys.private_pem); ok = st >= 200 && st < 300; } catch { ok = false; }
-    if (ok) delivered++;
-    else enqueueDelivery(site.slug, inbox, create); // durable: retry a briefly-offline recipient (was silently dropped)
+    // Langs de volgorde per inbox (shaer-xzab.3); wat niet meteen kan, gaat
+    // in de rij en wordt later opnieuw geprobeerd.
+    if ((await deliverNowOrQueue(site.slug, inbox, create, keyId, keys.private_pem)) === 'sent') delivered++;
   }
   console.log('[AP] outreply', site.slug, '→', parent.actor_uri, 'delivered', delivered);
@@ -2789,8 +2788,8 @@
     if (row.to_actor) { const a = await fetchActor(row.to_actor).catch(() => null); if (a) inboxes.add((a.endpoints && a.endpoints.sharedInbox) || a.inbox); }
     for (const f of fStmts().list.all(site.slug)) inboxes.add(f.shared_inbox || f.inbox);
-    for (const inbox of [...inboxes].filter(Boolean)) {
-      try { const st = await deliver(inbox, del, `${me}#main-key`, keys.private_pem); if (st >= 200 && st < 300) continue; } catch { /* queue below */ }
-      enqueueDelivery(site.slug, inbox, del); // durable: a failed comment-delete now retries (was silently dropped)
-    }
+    // Langs de volgorde per inbox (shaer-xzab.3): deze Delete mag niet vóór
+    // de Create van dezelfde reactie aankomen als die nog in de rij wacht --
+    // dan stond de reactie daarna weer op die server.
+    for (const inbox of [...inboxes].filter(Boolean)) await deliverNowOrQueue(site.slug, inbox, del, `${me}#main-key`, keys.private_pem);
   }
   db.prepare('DELETE FROM ap_outbox WHERE id = ?').run(outboxId);
@@ -4164,5 +4163,5 @@
   actorId, fetchActor, localActor, deliverTo: deliverToActor, deriveHandle, escHtml, linkUrls, linkHashtags,
   getOutboxRow: (id) => iStmts().getO.get(id),
-  buildReplyNote, AP_CONTEXT, getOrCreateKeys, deliver, enqueueDelivery,
+  buildReplyNote, AP_CONTEXT, getOrCreateKeys, deliverNowOrQueue,
   // Rijke directe berichten: dezelfde sanitizer als deliverReply gebruikt, zodat
   // een antwoord uit Berichten door precies één poort gaat.
Index: src/services/ap-transport.js
===================================================================
--- src/services/ap-transport.js	(revision 31288dcbb27f353ad78d4fa8c0e0b21f9b50bb50)
+++ src/services/ap-transport.js	(revision bfa3ba3ce26883066a0df7053c97b2067ddaa1e6)
@@ -278,5 +278,6 @@
   } catch { /* health tracking is non-fatal */ }
 }
-// Deliver now; queue for retry if it fails.
+// Deliver now, or queue: zegt welke van de twee het werd ('sent' | 'queued'),
+// voor de aanroepers die tellen wat er meteen aankwam.
 //
 // Niet meteen als er voor deze inbox al iets in de wachtrij staat (dan zou dit
@@ -284,12 +285,21 @@
 // server net faalde en in zijn backoff zit (dan kost het alleen acht seconden
 // time-out om hetzelfde te horen). Dan achteraan in de rij.
+//
+// DE ENIGE WEG om iets direct te versturen dat bij een mislukking in de rij
+// hoort (shaer-xzab.3). Drie plekken deden eerst zelf deliver() en pas bij een
+// mislukking enqueueDelivery(), en gingen zo langs de volgorde per inbox.
+export async function deliverNowOrQueue(slug, inbox, activity, keyId, privPem) {
+  if (!inbox) return 'queued';
+  try {
+    const st = deliveryStmts();
+    if (st.pendInbox.get(inbox) || st.hostWaits.get(inboxHost(inbox))) { enqueueDelivery(slug, inbox, activity); return 'queued'; }
+  } catch { /* geen wachtrij te lezen: gewoon proberen */ }
+  try { const st = await deliver(inbox, activity, keyId, privPem); if (st >= 200 && st < 300) { markFollowerDelivery(slug, inbox, true); return 'sent'; } } catch { /* queue below */ }
+  enqueueDelivery(slug, inbox, activity);
+  return 'queued';
+}
+// Deliver now; queue for retry if it fails.
 export async function deliverWithRetry(slug, inbox, activity, keyId, privPem) {
-  if (!inbox) return;
-  try {
-    const st = deliveryStmts();
-    if (st.pendInbox.get(inbox) || st.hostWaits.get(inboxHost(inbox))) { enqueueDelivery(slug, inbox, activity); return; }
-  } catch { /* geen wachtrij te lezen: gewoon proberen */ }
-  try { const st = await deliver(inbox, activity, keyId, privPem); if (st >= 200 && st < 300) { markFollowerDelivery(slug, inbox, true); return; } } catch { /* queue below */ }
-  enqueueDelivery(slug, inbox, activity);
+  await deliverNowOrQueue(slug, inbox, activity, keyId, privPem);
 }
 let _processingDeliv = false;
Index: src/services/guardianship/delivery.js
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--- src/services/guardianship/delivery.js	(revision 31288dcbb27f353ad78d4fa8c0e0b21f9b50bb50)
+++ src/services/guardianship/delivery.js	(revision bfa3ba3ce26883066a0df7053c97b2067ddaa1e6)
@@ -93,5 +93,5 @@
   if (!inReplyTo && helpMark && helpMark.noteUri) inReplyTo = helpMark.noteUri;
   const { actorId, fetchActor, localActor, deliverTo, deriveHandle, escHtml, linkUrls, linkHashtags,
-          getOutboxRow, buildReplyNote, AP_CONTEXT, getOrCreateKeys, deliver, enqueueDelivery } = deps;
+          getOutboxRow, buildReplyNote, AP_CONTEXT, getOrCreateKeys, deliverNowOrQueue } = deps;
   const base = (process.env.PUBLIC_BASE_URL || '').replace(/\/+$/, '');
   const list = [...new Set((recipients || []).filter((u) => /^https?:\/\//i.test(String(u || ''))))].slice(0, 8);
@@ -207,9 +207,7 @@
   }
   // Remote: one POST per inbox, so two guardians on the same server share it.
+  // Langs de volgorde per inbox (shaer-xzab.3), zoals elke bezorging.
   for (const inbox of [...new Set(resolved.filter((x) => !x.local).map((r) => r.inbox))]) {
-    let ok = false;
-    try { const st = await deliver(inbox, create, keyId, keys.private_pem); ok = st >= 200 && st < 300; } catch { ok = false; }
-    if (ok) delivered++;
-    else enqueueDelivery(site.slug, inbox, create);
+    if ((await deliverNowOrQueue(site.slug, inbox, create, keyId, keys.private_pem)) === 'sent') delivered++;
   }
   console.log('[AP] direct note', site.slug, '→', resolved.length, 'recipient(s), delivered', delivered);